Is Your Internet "Date" Lying to You
Internet dating has so much going for it. It's convenient, it's easy, it's affordable, and for many, it's the best (or only) way to meet eligible people to date. If you live in a secluded area, or in a place where there aren't many eligible people with the qualifications you're looking for, it can seem like a godsend. You can swing a wider net, and that's all to the good.
With sites such as match.com, eharmony.com, conservativematch.com, jewishsinglesusa.com, catholicsingles.com, true.com, seniorsingles.com, italiansingles.com, largeandlovely.com, baldrus.com, germansingles.com, millionairematch.com, seniorscircle.com, and largefriends.com what a choice! And new ones are added daily.
Individuals who are looking provide data about themselves, and in some cases, such as eharmony and true.com, take a personality test, and the two of you send a set of prepared questions back and forth before commencing to protected email. Some sites attempt to match people for compatibility. Most sites allow you to communicate within the site before sharing your real email address, and you're cautioned not to give too much personal information.
How can you tell if the person is misrepresenting important facts about themselves? We heard one case where an individual posing as a female had a long correspondence with a man, and even flew to meet him. The poor guy was expecting a woman at the airport. Why would someone do this? I don't know, do you? There are some crazy people out there.
One site takes some effort to protect registrants, doing a criminal background screening using an Internet database, to eliminate people with a U. S. felony or sexual offense conviction. However, Internet databases aren't reliable.
You can check for sexual offenders yourself. Most states are required to establish and maintain a statewide Sex Offender Database on the Internet showing people who've been convicted of certain sex offenses and/or crimes against children. Google "sex offender" and your state. However, these sites don't list other criminal convictions.
Many people lie about being married. If someone is representing themselves as single when married, they can be guilty of fraud and subject to civil and criminal penalties under US federal and state law. Title 18, Section 1343 of the US Code authorizes fines up to $250,000 and jail sentences up to five years for each offense.
But more importantly, if you get involved with someone who's misrepresenting, you'll waste time and energy, endure heart-break, and your physical safety may even be at risk.
You need to know, however, that Internet databases are incomplete, even the ones you pay for. Services such as thecloser.cc have access to privileged information. Why not eliminate sources of worry that you can?
What can you do to protect yourself? Here are some tips:
1. Have the person investigated. This is the only way to know for sure.
2. Keep within the confines of the dating website at first, without exchanging any
personal information. With just your last name and home town someone can find
out where you live. That information is readily available on the 'net.
Your goal is to take care of yourself and find the love of your life. Hopefully you'll have an enjoyable experience dating on the Internet. Like anything else, you'll get better with practice, and learn how to eliminate non-candidates more rapidly. There are plenty of great people looking on the Internet. After all, you are, aren't you?