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7 Tips to Feeling Sexy While Working at Home

  • By: Kathy Holmes

  • When I first started working from home, I noticed some challenges in feeling as sexy as often as I wanted to be. My husband commuted to an office, and nobody else saw me except for my three cats. I sat in front of my computer wearing my "stretchies" all day until my husband sent me an instant message saying he was on his way home. I'd quickly hit the shower, wash and blow dry my hair, throw on some make-up, and pick out a decent outfit. I then slipped on some "lounge" music, poured myself a glass of wine, and tried to turn off all thoughts of work in my head to get in the mood to be "sexy wife."

    Stay-at-home moms can probably all relate to me. But, instead of human children, I have 3 cat children who were also clamoring for my husband's attention when he arrived home.

    I sometimes long for the "good old days" when I used to commute to a separate office, interact with people, and feel more like part of the human race. Back then I couldn't wait to get home, change into something comfortable, and just absorb the feeling of hearth and home. Before I fell asleep that is. Because with a long commute on top of the stress of interacting with other people and a day's work, there wasn't much energy left at the end of the day.

    So, what are the secrets to feeling sexy when you stay at home all day?

    • Shower and get dressed in the morning just as you would if you were commuting to an onsite office.

    • Keep your office separate from the rest of the house, if you can. That way, you can close the door, leaving the office behind you.
    • Arrange to get out in public-either go to a coffee shop, cafe, book store or other public place where you can be around people and work at your laptop, make edits to your printouts, problem solve in your notebook or some other form of working on the go.
    • Plan time for exercise. When we sit at our computers all day, we sometimes forget to do something physical. We stay in our heads and we need to make that transition-not only for our bodies but for our minds, too.
    • Pamper yourself or splurge in some way. Perhaps every quarter, plan a massage, or once or twice a month get a manicure and/or pedicure. It may seem self-indulgent or costly or selfish, but it's worth it. You'll feel better and be more productive and more of a joy to be around.
    • If you're a mother, offer to exchange babysitting services with another mother to give each other some much-needed time away or meet other mothers in a location away from the house.
    • If you're a professional, join a professional organization with meetings scheduled for a weekday. It'll put you in more immediate touch with the business world and give you a much-needed mental lift.

    My circumstances have changed somewhat since I first starting working from home. My husband has joined me in our home office, as a 4-day-per-week telecommuter, and we have similar issues-the temptation to stay in our PJs all day. The previous steps have become even more important-showering and getting dressed early in the day, and taking some time to get out by myself.

    That's a situation many retirees can relate to. After being apart 9 to 5, five days a week for most of their married life, they've had to learn to adjust to being at home together. My in-laws' trick was to plan one day a week to do separate activities. My father-in-law would take the train into Boston, visit book stores, the library, and other attractions, and my mother-in-law would do whatever she was interested in doing: shopping or visiting friends.

    And so now it's time to take my own advice: take a shower, get dressed, and go out for a walk.

    Kathy Holmes writes women's fiction with romantic comedy elements while raising an awareness for Women over 40 and Fatherless Daughters,,, Article Source: